Training tomatoes

My tomatoes look so good! After the disaster of the sugar snaps, these healthy plants are a source of joy.

But I still need to tend to them daily. Not only do they need water, but they need training.

Tomato stems are not strong enough to bear their own weight, much less the weight of their fruit. As the branches grow, I must continually pull them inside the tomato cages or they will lie on the ground, spoiling the fruit. I gently lift the growing branches and rest them on the nearest rib of the cage. Gently, gently, because the new branches are fragile.

If I allow the branch to get too big before training them to the cage, I will have to bend the branch and risk breaking it. So I watch for fresh growth and support the branches with the cage as soon as possible.

The importance of training the tomatoes to the cages is something we learned from experience. Many plants, like the pepper plants, can bear the weight of their own fruit, but tomato plants cannot. The weight of the tomato will break the branch. Only when the branch is supported by the cage, can it bear the weight of the ripe tomato.

Do I need to be trained to accept support? I’m not a fan of needing help. It makes me feel old and weak. But these tomatoes are healthy and growing. It’s not that the plant is weak, but that the fruit is massive in comparison. A pear has an entire tree to support it. A similar sized tomato has only this tiny plant.

Perhaps, if my fruit is large compared to myself, I need support for it.

Whenever Moses held up his hand, Israel prevailed; and whenever he lowered his hand, Amelek prevailed. But Moses’ arms grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side and the other on the other side, so his hands were steady. Exodus 17:11-12

I find the fruit of the Spirit so appealing – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, generosity and self-control. So Melanie from Gone with the Wind. So counter to my Scarlett personality. I need support; I need to be trained to bear this fruit successfully. I am grateful to my friends who offer that support and gently correct me. I am thankful when they let me lean on them. Hopefully, I will can do the same for them or someone else someday. That is what the Christian community is all about – support.

Therefore encourage one another, and build up each other, as indeed you are doing… And we urge you, beloved, to admonish the idlers, encourage the faint hearted, help the weak, be patient with all of them. I Thessalonians 5:11,14

Already there are little yellow flowers and tiny green tomatoes in my garden. I know it will be weeks, perhaps even months, before I can harvest any. But the promise is there. And the reminder to train the plant to the support cage before the fruit becomes heavy. A reminder to allow myself to be supported; to support others, and to encourage others to accept support. With support, the plant can produce abundant fruit. With support, that fruit is visible and available to the world.

In the same way, let your light shine before others so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16

Thank you for supporting me as I garden, and as I write about gardening. Thank you to the many of you who have helped me grow as a Christian and learn to live as a widow. I thank our Lord for the gift of you.

Betsy

Let me praise God before the assembly. Psalm 22:22

Success?

I have sugar snaps! All three of them were delicious!

I heard an actor speak once about the false gods Americans embrace – success, wealth and beauty. The importance of these is so interwoven into our culture that we hardly recognize it. Many of us weave these into our religion as well, somehow believing that living faithfully will make us successful, wealthy, and beautiful. But is this the example Jesus gave us? Without His resurrection, would any of us describe Jesus as successful, wealthy, or beautiful? Certainly not in the the world’s view.

Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, “Show us the Father?” Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? John 24:9-10

Of course, the tricky part of this is “success” because the definition is flexible. Was Jesus a success because many people came out to listen to Him? 10,000 likes on Facebook? Success used to be linked with wealth, but we could also link it with power or influence. In today’s culture, a company needs to be profitable, generous and socially conscious to be “successful,” although I think the profitable bit is still very key.

Was my sugar snap garden successful? I got three peas. Is that success? No, it is not. I have been round and round about what went wrong, what I could do better, and what I will try next year. Because even if I am not “successful,” I believe God wants me to give it my best effort.

Whatever your task, put yourselves into it, as done for the Lord. Colossians 3:23

But for now, the spring garden is a bust. It is time to pull up the cages, take down the fence and let the mowers cut the weeds back. This year’s sugar snaps were a failure. If I were in a more unhealthy place, I might feel like I was a failure as well. There have certainly been times when my failure at a task has led me to feel like a failure as a person. But today, it just feels like another lesson from the garden. Perhaps being able to write about it has helped.

Perhaps I am redefining “success” and “failure.” Perhaps “success” has very little to do with production or profit or popularity. Perhaps it has nothing to do with wealth or beauty.

Jesus said to him, “If you wish to be perfect, go, sell all your possessions, and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me. Matthew 19:21

I am grateful for my three sugar snaps. I ate them with joy and thanksgiving. They were a gift from God. And they came, as they do every year, around Pentecost.

Pentecost, 50 days after Passover/Easter, marks the end of the Festival of Weeks and the celebration of First Fruits. One of the oldest Jewish festivals, Moses made it a mandatory celebration in Exodus, Leviticus and Numbers. By Jesus’s time, the Jewish people celebrated Pentecost as the day God gave His law to His people. It was as the people were celebrating the gift of the law that God gave the gift of His Spirit to His people.

When the day of Pentecost had come, they were all together in one place…. All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:1-4

And isn’t it always a “success” when God gives us a gift? When God gives us His law, so we know what pleases and angers Him? When God gives us His Spirit to make us new creations? When God gives me three delicious sugar snaps to enjoy?

Thank You, Lord. What wonderful fruit You have created. What a blessing You have given to me. Thank You.

Betsy

Thank you for reading along and joining me on this journey. Even if you don’t have a garden, God is growing something in your life. Trust Him and enjoy the fruit.

The earth is full of His majesty. Isaiah 6:3

Doubt

I didn’t want to post this picture. It is a picture of flaws and failings. It is a picture of what my sugar snaps look like right now. Not what I want them to look like, but what they actually look like.

God uses flawed and failing people to do wonderful things. He could just do them Himself, but He works through us instead. Hopefully, God can use my flaws and failings as well, because those sugar snaps look like failure to me.

I seem to remember having sugar snaps to eat by this time in the past, but the plants are too immature this year. They are barely taller than the weeds. Will I be able to harvest some of the delicious fruit? I don’t know.

A garden is an act of faith, just like the Christian life. I’m doubting right now.

If a garden has taught me nothing else, it has taught me I am not its master. There are too many variables outside my control.

How much can I do, really, to guarantee a harvest of sugar snaps?

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a town and spend a year there doing business and making money.” Yet you do not even know what tomorrow will bring…. Instead, you ought to say, “if the Lord wishes, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such boasting is evil. James 4:13-16

I want to “fix it.” I want to make the garden do what I want it to do. I want those sugar snaps tall and healthy and producing fruit right now. Shall I stomp my foot? Do you think it would help?

Sigh. Of course not.

Has it ever helped?

There are things beyond my control. Many, many things. Most things. Family, friends, pets, wildlife, trees, and my sugar snaps. I can influence them, but I am not in control of them. I love them too much to beat them into submission. So instead I will encourage them.

I will continue to go out every day and talk to my plants. I will water them and encourage them to cling to the support provided. I will be patient.

I am going to have faith that I will get at least some sugar snap harvest. There are plants, and they are growing. Nature is God’s non-verbal expression of His love, and God and nature operate on their own schedule, not taking my plans into account. This is how it needs to be. God, being God, has a much better vision of what and when than I do.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the Lord. Isaiah 55:8

I take comfort from the Jesus’ parable of the sower told in Matthew 13 and Luke 8. Even if the seed has escaped being trampled on or eaten by birds, even if it has grown deep roots in good soil and overcome the thorns, even when it has brought forth fruit, the results vary.

Other seed fell on good soil and brought forth grain, some a hundred-fold, some sixty, some thirty. Matthew 13:8

Maybe this is just a “thirty-fold” year. It may even be a year of no harvest. Maybe I just need to not compare this year to other years, or this garden to other gardens, or myself to other people. Or, as my yoga and stretch teacher says, keep my eyes on my own mat.

Keep my eyes on what God is growing in this garden right now. Love on these sugar snaps and be grateful for them. Rejoice in their growth and give thanks for whatever they may yield.

Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God for you. I Thessalonians 5:18

Will I get a sugar snap harvest? I’ll keep you posted.

Betsy

Restore a right spirit within me, O lord. Psalm 51:10

Upward growth

If you’ve been following along, you know that I have overcome my inertia and started a garden. I have bought seeds, set aside a place to grow them, tilled the ground to battle weeds, fenced the area to combat predators and given the seeds time and water for their transformation. I now have sugar snaps growing in my garden! Yay!! Success!!

I get to celebrate for about two weeks before I realize that those little sugar snap plants are not growing up right. They are sending out tendrils searching for something to cling to and are finding nothing but each other. They are becoming entangled with each other and weighing each other down, falling to the ground instead of reaching to the sky. The plants need some structure around them; they need support.

The traditional structures for peas and beans are bean poles. I use tomato cages, which work just as well. As soon as I place a tomato cage over or near one of the young plants, those tender tendrils reach out and latch on, wrapping around and around the sturdy bars and holding on as if their lives depend on it. Maybe it does.

Without structure or support, the sugar snaps wrap themselves around each other. Instead of growing upward, they bring each other down. It’s like the drowning person who climbs upon his rescuer, drowning them both.

But with the structure, with the support, the sugar snaps grow toward the sun. They hold on to the cage and depend on it for support. Reaching upward, there is plenty of space for growth. Success for one plant does not mean failure for another. With the proper structure and support, all the plants can thrive.

Are you with me here?

I need God’s Word. Without God’s Word as structure and support for my growth, I will reach out to other people and cling to them. My dependence on them will not only limit my growth, it may also limit theirs. A Christian community that clings to a person instead of clinging to the Word of God can sometimes slip into cult status. And if that person to whom we are clinging is not himself clinging to the Word of God, the entire community can fail.

The only way a person or a group of people can ensure healthy Christian growth is to have the Bible ever present as a source of support and The Truth to which everyone can hold fast.

The Lord your God you shall follow, Him alone you shall fear, His commandments you shall keep, His voice you shall obey, Him you shall serve, and to Him you shall hold fast. Deuteronomy 13:4 (See also 2 Timothy 3:15-16)

Sugar snaps thrive best when lots of them are growing together, each holding on to the cage nearest them. Several plants use the same cage, but they are individually clinging to it; growing together. Perhaps this is how the church thrives best as well. Lots of us growing together; each of us individually holding on to the Word.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. Proverbs 3:5

And upward growth is critical. Upward growth allows the plants to absorb as much of the sun as possible and ensures their fruit will be visible and accessible. And accessing that fruit is the main reason I planted those sugar snaps.

You did not choose me but I chose you. And I appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that will last. John 15:16

So I get those tomato cages around and among my sugar snaps as soon as possible; I want those plants growing in the right direction from the beginning. There is fruit at stake.

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Betsy

Nothing can separate us from the love of God. Romans 8:38-39

Disappointment

This year, I planted my sugar snaps in the middle of the garden. Last year, I planted them closer to the creeks; last year we flooded.

It was the night before Palm Sunday. Triumphant? Not that year. I live in a floodplain and love my creeks, but about every ten years they become a raging river and flood my garage and surround my house. 2021 was that year.

The little sugar snap plants had come up, bursting through their seed coverings and the tilled ground to reach their tendrils toward the sun. And then the flood came. Rushing water pressed the landscape timbers against the fencing. The water submerged the tender young plants for hours; pushing and pulling them. Strong currants re-arranged the dirt, emptying it from some spots and piling it high in others. 

For days I had to deal with more pressing concerns – cleaning up, replacing the damaged appliances, dealing with workers and insurance companies. It was several days before I could turn my tired and achy body to restoring the garden. I’d lost some plants. On top of all the other losses from the flood, this one almost crushed me – these plants, unlike the water heater, were irreplaceable. Disappointment loomed large.

In the world you will face tribulation; but take heart, for I have overcome the world. John 16:33

I once heard that the key to happiness is low expectations. Disappointment results from life not living up to our expectations. I had prepared the garden and cared for those little seeds in expectations of a wonderful crop of sugar snaps; and now that expectation appeared to be dashed. Likewise, our friend may let us down; our marriage may falter; our job may not work out; our child may struggle; some mysterious virus may come along and shut down all our plans. We had expectations; and now we have disappointment.

Walking with God and growing in His likeness does not rid us of disappointments. Even Jesus faced disappointments. Judas and Peter disappointed Jesus. James and John disappointed Him by arguing over who was greatest; and the religious leaders disappointed Him with their hardened hearts. I am sure I disappoint God when I am attracted to things that aren’t holy. If God and Jesus face disappointment, why should I think I would not?

Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that is taking place among you… rejoice insofar as you are sharing Christ’s sufferings. I peter 4:12-13

For here’s the beauty of the Christian life – there is hope. I can restore the garden, and some of the sugar snaps will continue to grow. If not, there is next year. Peter repented and Jesus made him head of the church. James and John learned from Jesus’ teachings and example, and we can do the same. Hardened hearts can soften, and my attention can return to things that are worthy.

And the joy when that happens is priceless. Like the flower that blooms in defiance of the asphalt surrounding it, joy leaps from disappointment. Our relationships are repaired or replaced with better ones; there are moments of breakthrough and connection; we learn to prioritize our activities and treasure those that are dearest. Those first sugar snaps are exquisite.

….knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint. Romans 5:3-5

Faced with repairing the garden, I turned my disappointment of lost plants into efforts of rebuilding. I nurtured and supported those plants that were left. In the hope of future joy, I did the work to repair the flood damage and bring back the garden. And it was worth the effort. Because even though my Palm Sunday last year was far from triumphant, Easter still came. Jesus rose from the dead and sent His Spirit to abide with us. There is joy; there is triumph; there is Victory.

Thank you for reading the Victory Garden. I pray you have a joyous Easter.

Betsy

Emmanuel – God with us. Luke 1:23